You will find here information about some of the approaches and techniques we may use

As we said earlier there are many approaches we can use to help you get where you want to be. Whichever it is the idea is to help you get back to feeling your feelings - to get real.

It won't always be easy or painless, but we find that the effort is almost always worth it - most of us benefit from being heard.

We both have our core training in Person Centred Counselling. This puts you at the centre of the process and has its roots in Humanistic Theory. This says that we all have the innate tendency to achieve our full potential - to self-actualise - given the right conditions. These conditions, known as the three Core Conditions are:

  • Empathy
  • Congruence
  • Unconditional Positive Regard

In plain English, if we treat you with understanding, in a truthful and honest way, and with respect, you can find a way way to move forward - to "grow".

This is a very supportive way of working though it doesn't mean it's an easy option. To be "Congruent" and truthful we will perhaps need to challenge some of the ideas and feelings you have which have held you back. The point is, we will be there for you.

A slightly more directive way of working, and one which you may be aware of, is Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT).

CBT, as the words imply, looks at how we think about and understand things - "cognitive", and what we do in response - "behaviour".

We can learn to change the things that we do and so change the way we feel about ourselves and others.

Abraham Lincoln famously said:

"Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be"

......we understand what he meant.

We find that some clients can derive great benefit from the knowledge that they can decide to do things to make the changes they seek - to take back the control and so become happier about themselves and their circumstances.

A related therapy is known as Rational Emotive Therapy (or Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy - REBT). This looks at how the way we think can affect the way we feel and in particular considers what are called our "irrational beliefs".

How many times have you heard it said - or said yourself  ".....I'll never be good enough to do that"  or  ".....no-one will ever love me".

REBT calls these irrational beliefs and by challenging these we can come to see ourselves in a different, more positive, way.

 

Much of how we feel and what we do stems from our earlier lives, especially our childhood years.

Some of the work we do with you may look at earlier life experiences and help you come to terms with making the changes you want to - the idea that "it doesn't always have to be that way".

For example, part of Humanistic Theory which we mentioned earlier describes something called Conditions of Worth - the values that other people put on us and which can warp our own view of ourselves.

 

Solution Focussed Brief Therapy (SFBT) is exactly that - it's focussed on the solution rather than the problem and it's intended to be time limited.

It is founded on the two principles that change comes from :

  • your preferred  vision of what the future is, and
  • using the skills and resources that you already have (remember what we said on the home page - we're not the experts - we believe you already have the resources you need)

One of the founders of SFBT was a man called Milton Erickson who was a successful hypnotherapist, using techniques which encouraged clients, under hypnosis, to "hallucinate" what life will look like without the problem they had presented with.......the "magic question".